A seductive underwear shot will be far more effective at stimulating the recipient’s fantasies than a shot that leaves nothing to the imagination. This isn’t a gyno exam-no one needs to see your cervix.
Since then I’ve learned that it’s usually best not to send nudes to someone who hasn’t already seen you naked. But this was a pre-Weiner, pre-hack time, when we were not yet versed in the risks and etiquette of naked selfies. This is an example of poor subtlety on my part. The first time I got a phone with photo capabilities, when I was 23, I sent photos of my boobs to everyone I wanted to sleep with, with mixed to negative IRL results. But there is a way to be smart(ish) about it. They’ve been around for a very long time, because nude photos are great, and we’re not going to stop taking or sharing them anytime soon. Newsflash: Naked pics did not originate with the release of the iPhone.
In order to compete in today’s sexting world, you have to be the right combination of witty and dirty you have to get the pacing right and, most importantly, you have to master the sexy selfie.Īfter last year’s massive celebrity iCloud hack, many opted for the victim-blaming routine: “They shouldn’t have taken nude photos in the first place!” This is ridiculous, of course. It can also improve your long-term relationship. But sexting is not only for new lovers, sixteen-year-olds, and politicians and their mistresses. If the ability to pen a beautiful love letter got our grandparents the girl, today, having a baller sexting game can be the difference between a Tinder match that goes nowhere and being able to actually touch a person in real life.